Places of Discomfort: Lifting Weights and Picking Up Books
Reading time: 10 minutes I get uncomfortable when men start to bemoan a supposed crisis of masculinity. If men have come to a reappraisal of gender relations and culturally created norms, it’s the price we rightly have to pay for taking the first tentative steps towards gender equality. That discomfort is no bad thing, and as a teacher, I must sometimes confront the unpalatable. I try not to bite when I see young men I work with parroting the views of supposed ‘influencers’ of the Andrew Tate mould. I call out their attitude. I challenge it with the experience of an older, married man. There are plenty of better heroes in the world. Men need role models just as women do, role models of strength, certainly, but also of sensitivity and intelligence. It is more than OK to be all of those things at once. Like many modern men, I aspire to that balance. It is easier to find villains, those to blame, than it is to find heroes. The obvious - and sometimes accurate - route is to vilify so...